Attachment Parenting and the Family Bed

Huh? She lets her baby sleep her bed? Is that LEGAL???

Yes, we have a family bed, and I practice what is called attachment parenting. Attachment parenting is a style of parenting that usually consists of most, if not all, of these things: Extended breastfeeding, family bed, wearing baby in a sling, non-punitive discipline, responding quickly to a baby's cry and breastfeeding on demand.

My son has never slept in a crib. I believe that a baby needs to be with the mother all the time, not just during daylight hours. I don't remember any rule that said parents are entitled to a full nights' sleep, but some people seem to think this is true. Rather, I feel that a child is entitled to 24-hour access to mom and dad if needed.

Now that my son is two, he has his "own" bed, but he still comes in to my room at times during the night. He is welcome. He goes to bed very well, never a fuss or a tantrum about it. I think the two years of rocking and nursing to sleep every night paid off in a secure little boy. (And we still rock and nurse to sleep on occasion, too.)

Thoughts on the Family Bed and Attachment Parenting are presented much more clearly in the web sites listed below. Please take the time to visit them.

RECOMMENDED READING: "The Discipline Book" and "Nighttime Parenting" by William Sears, MD and Martha Sears, RN "The Family Bed" by Tine Theniven

Snuggly Family Bed/Attachment Parenting Links

Rethinking "Healthy" Infant Sleep--James McKenna, PhD
An article lifted from Parenthood Web.
The Family Bed: An Expert's Opinion by David Servan Schreiber, MD, PhD
Yet another article lifted from Parenthood Web.
Parenting from the Heart
For parents who follow their hearts and trust their instincts with their children.
Wears the Baby
News, information, supplies and useful things for mindful family life.
Laura's Parenting Page
An attachment mom's personal site.
The Kids are People Too Page
Caring for infants and toddlers in a gentle manner.
A really cool site. Supportive to many styles of alternative parenting.
The Nature of Nurturing
Breastfeeding, Philosophy, Experience, Forum, Reviews, and Links. I found lots of interesting stuff here.
Lonnit's Instinctive Parenting and Breastfeeding Site
Breastfeeding, Attachment parenting, baby slings, the family bed...attractive site, too.
Encourages nurturing in all aspects of life, a lovely site, lots of links.
Positive Parenting Online
Experts on "Redirecting Children's Behavior," Bulletin board, live chat with experts, expert index.
Natural Family Site
Great information as well as books and catalogs.
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